The case of the girl too scared to kiss

Posted on 3 November 2015


Many moons ago, I was teaching a young lady who (due to her conditioning) found it very difficult to be intimate in her acting.

Every time she had to kiss a male actor she would freeze up.

I asked her why?

She said it was to do with her culture and family upbringing, which would frown upon doing this sort of thing with someone she had just met.


You see, acting isn’t just about learning a technique; it’s also about cultivating the ground upon which those acting seeds are to be sown.

The fact is, your acting is dependent upon what we call in The Method – your instrument – which is your mind and body.

This instrument of yours is organic and ever-changing. There are advantages to this (an email for another day) but there are also disadvantages.

If you find it difficult to play certain aspects of a character, either emotionally or behaviourally, it could be your conditioning getting in the way.

So, what do you do?

You have to become conscious of your conditioning and start to challenge it in order to expand the kind of characters you can play.

Now, if you would like to get cracking with that and then learn the technique used by Hollywood’s acting elite then it’s your lucky day.

Get your mitts on my book – The Ultimate Guide to Method Acting.

It’s all in there!